At the center of the Christian faith is an invitation to friendship and intimacy with God. He is an actual person, with a personality and a heart, and just as in any other relationship, it is the connection of these two hearts that matters above all else.
Friendship with God is the heartbeat of all; nothing else can substitute.
Jesus–the Expression of God’s Personality and Heart
If we want to know who God is, we need to look at Jesus. When we doubt God’s goodness or mercy or wonder how He feels when we suffer, we need to recall Jesus’ ministry on earth and everything He has done and said.
When the disciples asked Him to show God to them, Jesus pointed to Himself.
“The one who has seen Me has seen the Father. How can you say, ‘Show us the Father’? Don’t you believe that I am in the Father and the Father is in Me? The words I speak to you I do not speak on My own. The Father who lives in Me does His works.” (John 14:9-10)
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How to Cultivate Friendship and Intimacy with God
We cultivate friendship and intimacy with God when we develop a friendship with Jesus, knowing Him more and more.
When we do this, our lives naturally orientate towards knowing, serving, and worshipping God in spirit and truth and we start developing Gospel-based lifestyles.
Here are 5 practical ways to cultivate friendship and intimacy with God.Here are 5 practical ways to cultivate friendship and intimacy with God. #Christianliving #faith #bgbg2 Click To Tweet
#1 Spending Time Together
As in any other relationship, the more time we spend together, the closer we get. Making time in our daily routines for fellowship with God is the first practical step towards deepening our friendship. We can have a designated time, for example, in the morning and the evening.
But it is also helpful to be aware of God’s constant presence during the day and to include Him in our everyday activities.
“But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things will be provided for you.” (Matthew 6:33)
#2 Sharing Our Hearts with God
The second way to deepen our friendship and intimacy with God is to develop the habit of processing both our inner and outer experiences with Him. It is easy to share the outer experiences and what has happened to us, but it takes much more trust and honesty to pour our hearts and share the beautiful and the ugly.
God wants to hear it all and to have it all–our thoughts, our emotions, our fears, and worries.
“Trust in Him at all times, you people; pour out your hearts before Him. God is our refuge. Selah” (Psalm 62:8)We can deepen our friendship and intimacy with God when we develop the habit of processing both our inner and outer experiences with Him. #encouragement #trustGod #faith Click To Tweet
#3 Studying God’s Word
The third way to get to know God better is to study His word. God’s Word is an expression of His personality and heart. When we read and study God’s Word with the awareness that it is God Who is speaking to us, the Holy Spirit can reveal God’s truths and heart to us.
The time we set aside for studying God’s Word is a time of having a meeting with the living God and being nourished and satisfied by Him.
“In the beginning was the Word, and the Word was with God, and the Word was God. He was with God in the beginning. All things were created through Him and apart from Him not one thing was created that has been created.” (John 1:1-3)
#4 Applying God’s Word
It is not enough just to know and study God’s Word, but we need to hide it in our hearts and apply it to our lives. We should not be just listeners who forget but people who obey the Word and walk according to the Word.
Applying the Word to our lives adds a new dimension to our friendship with God and expresses our sincere love for Him.
“If you love Me, you will keep My commands.” (John 14:15)
#5 Trusting God with Our Pain
The last way to cultivate friendship and intimacy with God is our choice to trust Him with our pain and to worship Him in our suffering. There are depths of God’s grace and comfort which we can only experience when we are in the dark waters of pain and suffering.
God moves even closer and His everlasting arms hold us tighter when we suffer.
“The Lord is near the brokenhearted; He saves those crushed in spirit.” (Psalm 34:18)One way to cultivate friendship and intimacy with God is our choice to trust Him with our pain and to worship Him in our suffering. #suffering #trustGod #bgbg2 Click To Tweet
The Blessings of the Friendship with God
Friendship and intimacy with God are the sources of unimaginable joy and peace in the life of the believer. Knowing God more and more transforms our character and brings us deeper and lasting satisfaction.
It is a treasure of eternal value staying with us in this life and eternity.
“We all, with unveiled faces, are looking as in a mirror at the glory of the Lord and are being transformed into the same image from glory to glory; this is from the Lord who is the Spirit.” (2 Corinthians 3:18)
5 Ways to Cultivate Friendship and Intimacy with God Printable
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More Resources to Help You Cultivate Friendship with God
If you need additional resources to help you cultivate friendship and intimacy with God, I can highly recommend these books.
Kissing Guilt Goodbye by Enliven Devotionals
Transforming Your Thought Life by Sarah Geringer
Knowing God by J.I. Packer
Letters to the Church by Francis Chan
Forward: Discovering God’s Presence and Purpose in Your Tomorrow by David Jeremiah
Reasonable Faith: Christian Truth and Apologetics by William Lane Craig
Faith Talk: Christian Women & The Gospel by Heather Hart and contributing authors
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20 Replies to “How to Cultivate Friendship and Intimacy with God”
very helpful post! Thanks for sharing
Thanks! I am glad that you found the post helpful. Blessings to you!
Love this so much!! I’m blessed to have an intimate relationship with God. He truly is my everything. ❤
Thank you for this wonderful post!!
Thanks so much, Susan! I am so glad that you enjoy an intimate relationship with God! Blessings to you!
Thanks for featuring my book, friend!
Thanks, Sarah! It’s a pleasure, I love your book! Blessings to you!
I love the concept of trusting God with our pain being an intimacy builder in our relationship with God. That is a fresh addition to the other practices you’ve shared.
Thanks so much, Ginger! I am glad that you found the post helpful. Blessings to you!
Great post, Hadassah, on cultivating our relationship with the One Who loves us the most. I’m so thankful He pursues us, and that we can actively pursue Him in the ways you listed.
Thanks a lot, Lisa! I am happy that you found this post on how to cultivate friendship with God, the One Who loves us the most, helpful. Blessings to you!
I have been going through a season of sadness and I can feel God pulling me closer through Jesus. This is such a beautiful post! Thank you so much, Hadassah! ❤️
Thanks a lot, Donna! I am sorry that you need to go through this season of sadness. Praying for you and for God’s comfort and goodness! Blessings to you!
Wonderful post, Hadassah! I wrote this week about knowing God, and I love that we had some of the same and yet some different thoughts. You brought up some aspects I had not thought of.
Thanks, Barbara! I enjoyed very much your post about knowing God! Blessings to you!
Humankind tends to turn to God more in harsh times; we see this every day. Better than never! And starting by contemplating the beauty and the ugly, and sharing it, as you say, is a good way.
Thanks, Mihaela! Yes, sharing our hearts with God is a very good way to build friendship and intimacy with Him. Blessings to you!
This was a really helpful breakdown of different ways to cultivate friendship and intimacy with God. This has given me a lot to think about.
Thanks for your comment, Sarah! I am happy that you found the post thought-provoking.
I never thought about trusting God with our pain as a way to cultivate friendship and intimacy, but you’re right. We usually share our pain with those we are closest to. Thanks, as always, for sharing your thoughts!
Thanks so much, Lisa! I am happy that you found the post helpful. Blessings to you!